The world is full of information on the changes we can make to better our lives. Articles and infographics with tips on how to live happily and healthily. Instagram pages with quotes and images, showing us what we need to do, in the hope of inspiring us to start living our best lives and all of this information is literally at the tip of our fingers. If you want to embark on a wellness journey then you will not have to look too hard in order to find something to help you get started.
In fact, sometimes the volume of information that is available to us can be quite overwhelming. Before you know it, you have a huge list of things to start doing and your journey ahead begins to look more like a mountain hike and unsurprisingly unappealing. Sometimes you feel under pressure from society and social media to implement wellness practices into your life, because it seems to be the trendy thing to do, or perhaps someone else has insisted you need to make changes and your heart isn’t really in it.
I want to start by informing you that your wellness and self-improvement journey should never be a punishment. It should never be something that overwhelms or pressurizes you. Your journey will be unique to you and will require your full participation and willingness to get started. You should also not attempt to take on too much too soon, life is a journey and the finish line is six feet under, so don’t be in a rush to get there. Enjoy it, experience it, create it and change it as and when you feel you need to and explore it in a way that feels right for you.
Who and what am I?
This is a complicated, open-ended question that many spend their entire lives hoping to find the answer to. There is a great book by Eckhart Tolle and some talks by Abraham Hicks which dive deep into this question, but for simplicity for this article, we will look at your three main sides. Your #mind, #body, and #spirit. In truth, you need all three of these sides to be able to exist as human beings on this planet and you need all three to be balanced and fulfilled in order to have a healthy, thriving existence.
Your mind is the emotional and psychological part of you. That means your mental health, your mindset and your ego. They are equally important and you need to consider all three when thinking about the ‘Mind’ and how to bring it into a healthier, balanced state. Your thoughts have a huge effect on your emotions and behaviours, which is why you may hear a wellness practitioner telling you to be mindful, conscious or aware of your #thoughts. Your mind is connected to your body by feelings and directions. Did you know you can use your mind to feel places in your own body that need attention? It is often called the mind-body connection, your body responds to the way you think, feel and behave, which can ultimately impact your biological functioning.
Your mindset is a combination of your thoughts and your beliefs and these determine how you see the world and yourself. This ultimately has an outright effect on the level of ‘success’ you achieve and of course, what success actually means to you. Your ego is the part that identifies as you, that part that says ‘me’ and ‘I’ and identifies specific attributes and ways of thinking to determine ‘who it is’. For example, you may label yourself in this way.
I am Jane.
I am an office administrator.
I am depressed.
I am married.
I am dyslexic.
I am overweight.
Ok, so the person above has a lot of different things that make up their identity. What do you think will happen if you try to change something about Jane that she feels is a part of who she is as a person? The chances are, Jane will not react too well and she will most unlikely be reluctant to make any life changes because her ‘ego’ is frightened that it will lose its identity if she does.
"Who am I if I am not that?"
Your body is your vehicle through life. Your beautiful and wonderful body that allows you to gallantly exist in this reality. It works on its own intelligence system and like your mind, has its own unique requirements. It needs to be well hydrated, we know this. Our bodies cannot survive without water, it uses it for basic functioning like digesting and breathing, therefore we have to replenish what it uses. It requires various nutrients and vitamins and each body will need something unique to the person standing next to them. It needs movement and rest, love and respect. As your body changes, its requirements will change too, which is why you need to be in tune with your body so that you can feel what it needs. Remember, your body is not its shape or skin colour. It is not the clothes it wears or the way it looks in a selfie. It is not the reflection of what other people see. Your body is your home. You can move around the world and it will always be with you, housing you and enabling you to live. When your body is no longer willing to home you, you will no longer be walking this earth, so love it whilst you can and give it what it needs to thrive.
This side of us is mostly overlooked. It is common for people to hear the word spirit and instantly think of religion or voodoo. If you were to ask the question, what is spirituality? You will get as many answers as there are humans in this world and that is because, in a way, it means something different to everyone. Broadly speaking, it is the connection to something bigger than ourselves; the search for our own individual life purpose. Our understanding and experience of a way of life in which we seek to connect to our higher self, or the universe... itself. Your spiritual health encompasses your values, relationships, and the true meaning and purpose of your life.
This is not a religion, instead, it is a deep connection with yourself and identifying your own needs and desires. Religion tends to preach that there is one true path to spirituality, the same direction in which all must follow in order to experience the divine. Nurturing your own spiritual health means that your path is exclusive to you and that you tailor your journey to your own specific emotional, mental and spiritual requirements.
When you are able to get the three sides of you working in perfect harmony and in sync, you will begin to see positive changes happen in your life. You will feel good, experience happiness and unconditional love and your ideal life will be a reality.
As mentioned at the beginning of this article, this is a journey, not a race. Start slowly with the things that feel good for you. If your friend runs two miles every day and tells you that this is what YOU need to do to feel good and then you try it and absolutely dislike it, then it is not the right path for you. You need to find your own wellness journey which may require you to try many different things until you come across the ones that are made for you.
If you would like some help to find your own path then try one of our Wellness Path Programs today.
Remember, do what feels right for you.